Jude
09-10-2003, 09:54 AM
Sometimes a boy/girl comes into town for a wedding and a shadchan arranges for them to meet someone. The boy/girl has a ticket to leave, let's say, the next day.
What bothers me about this is that under normal circumstances, when a first date/meeting goes all right, even if not great, the couple meets again. But under these circumstances, unless the date/meeting was fantastic, the boy/girl will not bother to fly in again to give it a second chance. So the first meeting is basically about the other one's looks and whether you immediately hit it off.
On the other hand, people figure - who knows? maybe they'll hit it off ...
What do you think? How committed do you think the boy/girl has to be to coming in for a 2nd date/meeting, before meeting for the first time?
What bothers me about this is that under normal circumstances, when a first date/meeting goes all right, even if not great, the couple meets again. But under these circumstances, unless the date/meeting was fantastic, the boy/girl will not bother to fly in again to give it a second chance. So the first meeting is basically about the other one's looks and whether you immediately hit it off.
On the other hand, people figure - who knows? maybe they'll hit it off ...
What do you think? How committed do you think the boy/girl has to be to coming in for a 2nd date/meeting, before meeting for the first time?